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除此之外，上一段恋情带给我们的痛苦与教训，也会让我们在新的关系里不断反思、进步 。并且研究发现，这一点在焦虑型依恋风格的个体身上，尤其明显 。[8]


这是因为对关系破裂的焦虑会让我们重新审视自己对待恋人的方式，从而避免犯之前犯过的错、踩之前踩过的坑 。


因为曾经失去过，所以明白了怎样才能更好地拥有 。






空窗期的长短并不是爱情的衡量标准，它既不能说明一个人有没有爱过前任，也不能说明一个人对现任是不是真爱 。


它的意义在于帮助我们消化上一段感情，并且为下一段恋情做好准备 。所以，如果说你已经解决了这两个问题，那么遇到喜欢并且合适的人，就去爱吧！


少女相信，你已经在上一段关系结束时变成了更好的自己，所以你也一定会遇到比上次更好的人 。


世界和我爱着你?


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[2] Sprecher, S., Felmlee, D., Metts, S., Fehr, B., & Vanni, D. (1998). Factors associated with distress following the breakup of a close relationship. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 15, 791–809.
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【谈对象“无缝衔接”的人，亲密关系里更幸福？爱得够深空窗期才短 空窗期】[8]Marshall, T. C., Bejanyan, K., & Ferenczi, N. (2013). Attachment styles and personal growth following romantic breakups: The mediating roles of distress, rumination, and tendency to rebound. PloS one, 8(9), e75161.

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